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A Safe Haven for Newborns is dedicated to saving the precious lives of newborns from the dangers of abandonment and assisting pregnant girls/women in crisis.
ReflectionsBut I firmly believe that any manís finest hour---his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dearóis that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle, victorious. Vince Lombardi
Certified teacher's aide
When I was a live in nanny for a family with a 3 month old baby in Del Mar, California in the past, I assisted with a crisis situation. The parents had returned home after their evening together that included drinking and drugging that was part of their lifestyle during the time I was employed by them. I woke to loud voices shouting and rushed to where the baby slept. She was safe in her crib unaware of the challenges of her parents in the master bedroom. I quickly ran to the top of the stairs and knocked on the door when I heard the mother call out. She was in the master bedroom closet when there was a struggle with a firearm the father held. I was not heard when i knocked on the door. They continued to argue in loud voices. It was about weight gain after having a baby. It continued to escalate and that's when they started to fight about the custody of the baby sound asleep in her crib downstairs. I flew back down the stairs to the door way entrance of her room before the physically fit and strong father and petite mother arrived. The mother's breath smelled of gin and the father's behavior had me frozen with fear. Words emerged to convince them both to let their baby continue to rest undisturbed. I put on multiple hats that day and found strength I did not know I had. I managed to convince them both to let me do my job that they hired me to do to assist them with their daughter. I also offered advise as an athlete and recommended we would start exercises in morning to get fit. The mother rested on the floor of the baby's room and the father left the house. In the morning, tensions were still running high. We bathed the baby in the bathroom sink. Both parents were angry and i listened as they took turns giving their daughter a bath. One parent was insisting they did it better than the other. I worked one-on-one with each parent. While the mother was describing her experience from the masterbedroom closet, the pressure she applied during bath time with her daughter increased. I stopped how she was bathing her daughter because the pressure was too much. I encouraged her to go get a relaxing shower while i finished getting the baby ready to go for a walk. The father then assisted me with bath time. I guided both parents with the morning routine as first time parents. We made our way to a baby jogger, in line skates and a bicycle to exercise that day. I did my best to do an action plan for both parents and myself. I contacted the circle of family and friends who have training to assist with families in crisis. Thank you for this opportunity to describe my experience as a nanny. Many times,it gets worse before it gets better. This was a catch 22 situation. All voices are valid in a crisis because each person does the best they can in the only way they know how.